Living with others in mind is healthy, noble, and useful except when insecurity drives you.
- Defend when they should explore.
- Take things personally.
- Blame higher ups for tough decisions.
- Don’t trust others because they don’t trust themselves.
- Can’t say no.
- Threaten, intimidate, and coerce.
- Shut down input from others because feedback is frightening.
- Won’t delegate.
- Create teams of yes-men.
- Illustrate their competence and successes too frequently.
- Hoard knowledge.
- Delay decisions and then flip flop after.
- Seem snobbish.
- Crave positional authority and respect.
- Nitpick and belittle.
- Share blame and take credit.
- Name drop.
Bonus: Think others are out to get them.
Thanks to contributors on my Facebook page for helping me develop this list. Your insights rock.
15 tips for overcoming insecurity:
- Realize success won’t help. Let it go.
- Develop trusted confidants and tell them your insecurities.
- Compare yourself with yourself, not others.
- Act with optimism.
- Engage in self-reflection every day.
- Keep a journal.
- Believe you have purpose and place. You belong in this world.
- Let your humanity out.
- Read biographies.
- Let opportunity rather than fear motivate.
- Say out loud, “This is a tough decision.”
- Act and speak with gentle confidence.
- Give others what you wish they’d give you.
- Center debate and decision making on issues not people.
Insecurity viciously and relentlessly pushes people around.
I wish there was a magic pill. Growing through insecurity is slow and perilous but it enhances life and leadership.
We’ve all seen insecure leaders who hobble their own success. What symptoms and cures for insecurity can you add?